Starting this process with my daughter was scary at first, but it turned into a project that we were both passionate about. I was able to get my daughters perspective and give her mine, and share research I have gotten on recovery and resources. I am able to understand her better, even when I do not agree with her opinions, I can demonstrate love and support for her.
…Occurs rarely, but I can attest that it can happen in the unlikeliest of circumstances. The last several weeks were rough emotionally, but slowly became inspiring. I decided on collaborating with my daughter in an interview/informational film on Eating Disorder Awareness. Half-way through my media production program -means I produce a film using whatever equipment needed in the studio and they help me produce it. The media center is the hub for the local public access channels. The nerd in me finds working there pretty cool (no matter what hat I wear). I want to do more pieces showcasing the non profit agencies our area and help them gain more visibility and support.
We have been scouting interview locations all around the city, and practicing with different types of cameras, and using different kinds of natural lighting. She has proven to be very helpful as a personal assistant, with all the audio and video equipment needed to set up film quality scenes. My daughter and I share the creativity gene… we see the rest of the world in little movie snippets, or stories, we see things very differently, but our brains work much the same. She has been working on her Service Learning hours for graduation, by cleaning the studio, and catologing 100s of tapes and dvds, amongst operating equipment in a pinch.
We have learned about the variety of disordered eating, and how undererepresented boys are in relation to girls struggling. There are many misconceptions that the public hold about those with disordered eating, but keeping secrets will not promote awareness or change.
If awareness and prevention starts early, maybe we can have less documentaries and memoirs made about mothers ‘surviving’ their daughters and sons sudden loss to something like ED. Just a couple weeks ago, the community lost a 23 year old daughter to ED complications, and the family donated to the Alliance for Eating Disorder Awareness. There are not many solid resources for families like ours, so hopefully we will change that. I hope my film does justice to the topic and I am proud of my daughter for sharing such a painful part of her life in order to encourage others to seek help.